Had your hot new co-worker picked up on your sultry looks over the file cabinet, maybe you’d have a date for the 14th. Alas, they misinterpreted your stare, and you narrowly avoided a sexual harassment complaint. Now that they think you’re the office weirdo, your chances at a Valentine’s Day date this year is off the table, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the love holiday on your lonesome.
In the immortal words of RuPaul, “if you don’t love yourself, how you gonna love somebody else”? Not sure how to do that? We’ve got you covered. Follow this guide and take yourself out on a sweet single date.
Step One: Getting Ready
Start the evening off right by pampering yourself in the shower or bath. If you were picking someone up for dinner, you’d make sure you were smelling good, so don’t skimp out on the good stuff. Try L’Occitane’s luxurious Olive Organic Cream to cure your mid-winter dry skin, or test out the Body Shop’s Peach Shower Gel to smell good enough to eat. It may seem like a lot of work for nothing but smelling good goes a long way to lifting your spirits. And if you’re still a little reticent, remember: since it’s just going to be you, you can skip over your usual shave and slip straight into a pair of soft jammies.
Step Two: Order Takeout
Confident or not, sitting down to eat a meal while your fellow diners are on a romantic date is a challenge. You don’t want to be the only obviously single person enjoying their wine and steak dinner. While you’re perfectly happy on your own, you don’t want to have to deal with their looks of pity when their beau goes for a bathroom break.
Avoid the whole mess by ordering your favorite takeout. Try out the GrubHub or JustEat app to put in your order without talking to a single person. Chinese, Thai, Pizza, or all three. It doesn’t matter. With a few clicks, you can get the dishes you want. Bask in the knowledge you won’t have to share a single bite.
Step Three: Synch up Netflix
Tonight, you’re going to take Netflix and chill literally, and there’s no one around to distract you or force you into watching a boring documentary. While waiting for your takeout to arrive, scroll through your My List to see if you have anything queued to watch, like season two of the Crown. If not, there’s no one to judge you when you re-watch season six of Friends for the thousandth time.
Step Four: Uncork the Bottle
Valentine’s Day and champagne go together like George and Amal. Don’t skip on a bottle of the bubbly just because you’re by yourself. Snag one on your way home from work, so you can sip on a glass while you watch Chandler shop for engagement rings. If you’d rather drink motor oil than a single mouthful of the stuff, don’t worry; this is your night. Pick something that you like. It doesn’t matter if it’s red wine, whiskey, or a bottle of 7Up.
Step Five: Spoil Yourself
Now, this next step is a tricky one to follow. It can easily fall into the category of pity-shopping through the holiday. To keep your budget intact after the 14th, you need to be strategic about your choices. You don’t want to wake up in the morning and experience retail regret, so keep it small. Avoid websites like Tiffany’s. While a brand-new diamond necklace would be nice, a gift of that size is not always in the budget.
Stick to items that come in under the $50 mark, like a cool iPhone decal. If you recently upgraded to the iPhone X, you can get your iPhone X to look unique with a fun, affordable, and practical iPhone decal. Affordable though they may be, you still have a lot of looks to choose from when you shop with a skin designer like dbrand. You can easily spend a lot of time creating a customized decal since they have a huge selection that includes trendy marble, dragon skin, and carbon fiber iPhone skins.
If you’re more of an analogue girl, head to Barnes and Noble and search through their Bestsellers list. Or head to Claire’s to find a faux-diamond choker. And if you’re still not sure what to do, check out a list like this for inspiration.
Step Six: Get Some Rest
In the hustle and bustle of modern life, you’re always on the go — even late at night. It’s all too easy to find yourself staying up well-past midnight despite your seven-a.m. wake-up call. Do your body a favor and give it what it craves: a full night’s sleep! Put that iPhone away, and turn off Netflix an hour before you want to go to bed. Screens that emit blue light disrupt your body’s production of melatonin and can make it difficult to catch some Zs.
Fill that time away from your screen doing calming activities that help you unwind. Try a low-key yoga routine that’s designed to encourage sleep. Surround yourself with scents that can help you unwind, like lavender. Drink a mug of herbal tea while you catch up on a few chapters of your latest book. Do whatever it takes to relax naturally before your head hits the pillow.
After a full night’s sleep, you’ll wake up in a better mood than ever before — not despite your dateless Valentine’s Day but because of it. Don’t feel sorry for yourself that you don’t have a date on the big day. Use your empty social calendar as an opportunity to pamper yourself this February. You’ll be surprised at how rejuvenating your night in can be!