Keeping a happy, successfulmarriage is not an easy thing to do. Divorce rates in many countries go over20, and even 30%, which we can agree is a lot. Divorce affects you, your wholefamily, and children, so it is worthwhile trying to work on it, and make itsuccessful, and last a long time. Here are some tips on how to do it.
Many would say that the mostimportant thing in a marriage is communication, and it is true. Everythingstarts from there, so learn to express your thoughts and worries to yourpartner, and talk about your problems, rather than sweep them under the rug, oreven worse, fight about them. In many cases, communication is what will keepthe two of you from cheating, which is one of the main reasons for divorce. Youcan also avoid many future fights by simply expressing your feelings, so makeit a habit to talk.
Learn to listen
Hearing and listening are not thesame thing, so the next time you discuss with your partner, try to actually listen and understand what they aretalking about. This goes both ways. Respond to that accordingly, and don’t beselfish in any situation.
Spend time together
When you are in a long marriage,you spend most of your time together. However, we are talking about qualitytime, when you can dedicate it to each other and reconnect. It can be a dinner,a spa weekend, or even going to the gym together. A good idea is to have ashared activity that you do once a week, so that even if you are having ahectic and busy schedule, you know that you have one day for just the two ofyou.
And be apart
Just as being together has itsbenefits, staying apart is good for your relationship as well. You can take thetime to be with your friends or family, do whatever makes you feel good. Thishelps you recharge and go back to your marriage as a fulfilled individual.Soon, you will see how those night outs with girlfriends or his sport or pokernight with the boys have their benefits.
Keep the passion alive
Sex is one of the most importantparts of a relationship, despite what everybody says. It is completely normalfor your sex drive to reduce over time. However, this is something that can beworked on in order to have a good, healthy marriage. Trying new things like adult toysor costumes can make the whole experience more interesting when you needsomething to spice things up. So, don’t be afraid to get them, and surpriseyour spouse.
One of the things that makes usfall in love is all the attention and affection we get from the other person.Don’t let these little gestures disappear because it is so easy to bethoughtful. Buying flowers, chocolates, his favorite beer, or organizing aromantic movie night are details that really do make a difference. Pamper yourman with his favorite meal once in a while, or surprise him with a gift or amassage. As for the husbands, you can share chores with your wife, or prepare arelaxing bath after her busy work day.
Never stop trying
A mistake that many couples makeafter just a few years of marriage is that they stop trying. This means youstop going to the gym, or getting all dressed up. Now, of course, they shouldsee the real you, but you should still try to seduce your spouse. Lift someweights, get some nice lingerie, put on some fancy clothes when going todinner, and just take care of yourself, which will help your relationship aswell.
Don’t try to change them
We all often feel like we havethe right to change the other person, and they have to change for us to provetheir love. This is a very bad strategy to use. You should try to accept the person you are with, and youshould both work with what you got. Find a compromise, because we are sure youcan manage it without having to be someone you are not.
Don’t give up
Marriage takes a lot of work. This means that even when things get tough, you should not give up on the first try. Yes, some situations can’t be resolved, but most of them will be a temporary state. You have to both work hard for it to last.
Keep the passion alive
Sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship, despite what everybody says. It is completely normal for your sex drive to reduce over time. However, this is something that can be worked on in order to have a good, healthy marriage. Trying new toys or costumes can make the whole experience more interesting when you need something to spice things up. So, don’t be afraid to get them, and surprise your spouse.
Ask for help
There is no shame in asking forhelp if you have some problems that you can’t fix on your own. Couples therapy,counseling, or even workshops that will help you reconnect and overcomedifficulties are a good option.
It is tough to sustain a healthy,happy marriage, especially today when there are so many other aspects of ourlives we have to work on. However, if you truly want it to work, you can trythese simple steps, which will most certainly make a difference.