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Stepping Back.. I learned a lot from BlogHer 09

After everything I learned from BlogHer, the most important thing is that I am doing too much and for what?

Trying to be the nice person and make everyone happy has gotten me nothing back back stabbing and my feelings hurt.

For this, I am stepping back from blogging. You will see me blogging yes here on my site, but you wont see me much in the blogosphere or socializing much. I need to deal with my personal life and my family first.

Blogher 09 was not what I expected. The sessions were not what I expected and like I heard somewhere else very basic. The parties were a blast yes but the greed from women was overwhelming. I am tired of listening to whiny adults complaining about not getting enough swag or not being invited to parties. I’m tired of grown women being caddy and fighting.

What I have learned is that I need to stand up for myself and not be walked on and feel like I need to make everyone like me. If you don’t like me oh well. There is nothing I can do about that.

If I decide to go to blogHer 10, my husband will be there with me.

About the Author

Amanda Acuña an influential Mom Blogger. She created MommyMandy as an online resource to the parenting community. She is married to her high school sweetheart and has three daughters, ages 14,11, 5 and a son who is 2. They currently reside in Texas.

10 Responses to “Stepping Back.. I learned a lot from BlogHer 09”

  1. There really is nothing better than taking a step back to reflect. Some times when your “in it” it’s hard to see what’s happening to you over all. What healthy decision you have made for yourself. Good Luck!
    .-= Pamela Kramer´s last blog ..Uncle Joe – Take 2 =-.

  2. Beth G says:

    OH, I’m sad for you. Sorry you had to deal with catty women! I didn’t go and maybe that’s a good thing.
    I do appreciate your blog and postings though, just so ya know 😉
    .-= Beth G´s last blog ..Fall Into Fashion 2009 Trends =-.

  3. Sarah says:

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I’m considering attending next year and I’ve heard a lot of similar sentiments from other bloggers about their experiences. It’s really too bad. I’m glad we’ll still be able to hear your thoughts here!
    .-= Sarah´s last blog ..Best Parenting Books (in this mama’s opinion!) =-.

  4. Naomi says:

    Just for the record- I like you. Wish I’d had more of a chance to talk to you.
    .-= Naomi´s last blog ..BlogHer 09 =-.

  5. Cat @ 3 Kids and Us says:

    I don’t blame you one bit. I’ve started to scale back myself and it feels sooo much better. But please remember, not ALL women/bloggers are like that, you just have to surround yourself with the ones that are genuine.
    .-= Cat @ 3 Kids and Us´s last blog ..Baby’s First Taste Ruined by Nikon Blur =-.

  6. You should totally bring your hubby Amanda! I bringing mine to BlogHer 2010! I’m sorry you’re feeling bummed. I hope you feel better. P.S. How embarassing for the women who were behaving so greedily – that’s like women who shop the day after Thanksgiving.
    .-= Shannon (The Mommy-Files)´s last blog ..MckLinky Blog Hop – Favorite Photo =-.

  7. Kayla says:

    You will always have those whiny types wherever you go-I admire you for realizing to put your life in check! And I totally understand =]
    .-= Kayla´s last blog ..MckLinky Blog Hop(7/28): Favorite Baby Picture =-.

  8. I am so sorry that there was so much drama. (hugs)

  9. GINA says:

    sorry for all the drama!

    don’t know you but I have heard you are a very sweet person
    .-= GINA´s last blog ..Wanted to share some Pics! =-.

  10. Linda M. says:

    I’m so sorry for being so late in commenting.My health gets me backed up at times. As I’ve said a million times in comments to you……I’m old & have been around in so many places with so many people…..you are a very sweet & kind person, I’ve also told you a million times, how I love your blog & can tell that you’re a real person. It’s so true about people. Whenever & wherever you have a large group of people & I’m sorry women in particalar,you’re going to have catty women & people who do nothing but whine.You just can’t please everyone & you just can’t try.As you said, your family is most important. Yes, when this blog & it’s demands become a burden & you become this sad & upset, it is time to step back BUT it’s also a good time to look at you & what makes you happy. You seem to love doing this blog & all that goes with it….you just have to turn a blind eye & a deaf ear to anyone who brings you this stress. Just say NO & walk away there are planty of girls who feel like you do. You’ll find them, just walk away from those that you don’t care to listen to or disagree with what they’re saying.I bet you’ll be surprised at how many friends you’ll meet that are doing the same thing.I’ve been to so many of these things,I spend a lot of time walking away. But I do meet & find some great people that make it all worth while.please don’t give up all together! You’ve taken your step back….now go forward with a new thought in your mind…….it will be different..you’re different. Don’t let them see you sweat! Anyone who acts the way you describe won’t even know you’ve walked away & if they do…..who cares.And while you’re walking you just may meet a great new friend. I’m so sorrry you’re feelings have been hurt & I’m so sorry you had to experience that side of the human race.I’m afraid it’ll never go away, but you can get away,it’s not hard..you’ve already done it. The best to you always…….

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