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So Close Yet So Far: How To Maintain Long Distance Friendships

When you’re young, it’s easy to maintain friendships. You don’t have any of the responsibilities of adulthood, and you can just dedicate all of your time to spending it with the people you care about. Sadly, as you get older, it’s just not as easy to do that. Work, family, and all the other things that come along with adult life make it increasingly difficult to take the time to spend with friends. This is only made more difficult when you end up living far away from someone important to you. There are some friends who move far away, and you simply accept that you’re not going to be a big part of each other’s lives anymore. But then there are the people who are so important to you that you don’t want to lose them no matter what. Well, the good news is that it’s absolutely possible to keep that relationship going, but it does require some extra effort from both of you. Here are a few simple ways that you can maintain a long distance friendship.

 

Schedule time for each other

 

A lot of the time, when you’re near to someone, you can just make plans on a whim whenever you feel like it. Sadly that’s not really possible over long distances, especially if you’re living in different time zones. The best way around this problem is to schedule time for each other on a regular basis. Pick a time when you’re both going to be available once a week to talk through something like Skype and stick to it no matter what. It might seem a little rigid, but it’s just part of the extra effort that you have to put in if you really want to keep a friendship alive over long distances.

 

Remember the important days

 

Don’t let things like birthdays and Christmas fall by the wayside. It might not seem like much of a big deal, but there’s something wonderful about letting someone know that you care on those important days, no matter how far away they are. There are plenty of places that can help you save money if you want to send gifts internationally since postage can often be something of an issue. Don’t worry if it’s not something grand or expensive, it might be a cliche but remember, it really is the thought that counts.

 

Call spontaneously

 

Thanks to smartphones and instant messaging, there’s one thing people very rarely do anymore: actually, call each other. Why not just take the time to call your friend, apropos of nothing, just to talk. Not only will it be a nice surprise for them, but it’ll give you a chance just to sit down and talk to each other without any distraction. Texting and messaging are great because they allow you to keep in constant contact but, at the same, it means that you’ve often got lots of other things going on at once. By actually sitting and talking to each other you can give your friend your full attention, even for just a little while.

 

About the Author

Amanda Acuña an influential Mom Blogger. She created MommyMandy as an online resource to the parenting community. She is married to her high school sweetheart and has three daughters, ages 14,11, 5 and a son who is 2. They currently reside in Texas.

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