Raising kids is one of the hardest jobs in the world. You’re a nurse, chef, chauffeur, cleaner, teacher, entertainer, ATM machine and so much more for your children (sometimes all on the same day).
You may yearn for the days when you used to read books, go to the movies, or just sit around and do nothing. But when you have kids, just managing to shower is sometimes an achievement and you need to get some advice.
We all know we need to take care of ourselves, but we keep putting it on the back burner and just never seem to get around to doing it. Our own mental and physical health takes a back seat to our other commitments.
They say you can’t pour from an empty cup, so here are some tips to help you get in the right frame of mind to start practicing self-care.
Decide what self-care means to you
Everyone’s idea of self-care is different. Some people want to go out with friends or their partner, some want to read a book and some just want a relaxing bath and a massage. Whatever you need to recharge your batteries, that’s where you need to start. Time to yourself if precious, so don’t spend it worrying you’re not doing something ‘worthy’. Here are some ideas to get you started.
Know when to get help
Sometimes as a mom, you can feel overwhelmed and turn to unhealthy behaviors and substances to help you cope. If this is the case then you need to speak to a professional in order to try to get a handle on the situation. There are many addiction treatment programs and help groups that can provide support.
You aren’t alone, reach out.
Ditch the mom guilt
Taking time to look after yourself isn’t selfish or inappropriate. You’re a mom but you’re also your own person.
The healthier and happier you are, the better you’ll be able to deal with hectic family life and a better role model for your children.
Remove any obstacles
Make a list of reasons you don’t take time out for yourself and then look at ways to overcome them.
Always looking after the kids? Arrange for your partner or friend to take the kids for a few hours so you have no interruptions.
You keep putting it off. Book an appointment to get a massage, your hair done, anything that requires you to keep to that appointment. You’ll be less likely to keep putting it off if someone is expecting you to turn up.
You don’t have any time. This one is a bit more difficult to overcome. Look at what you absolutely have to do and what you can realistically postpone for a day or two. You’ll be in a much better position to tackle those tasks if you’re feeling refreshed and less stressed.
No spare cash to do anything? Go outside for a walk, or window shopping. Have a relaxing bath and revisit your favorite book. It doesn’t have to cost money.
Go and do it
Now that you’re in the right frame of mind and know how important it is to practice self-care as a busy mom. It’s time to go and do it. What will you do first?