Sex is all about how we feel. Unfortunately, it’s easy to forget that those sensations shouldn’t be limited only to the bedroom. And when you’re not being held, hugged, caressed, or otherwise touched outside of
bed, it can be tough to want to be touched at all: We can’t tell you how many women (and men) complain that their partners only touch them when they want sex.
Day Six is about getting back in touch. We already learned that frequent touching raises oxytocin. Frequent touch may even improve our physical health, too: For example, one 2008 study of 34 couples found that those who were the most physically affectionate—touching each other in loving, supportive ways throughout
the day for four weeks—had lower blood pressure and other markers of stress than those who were less affectionate. That’s why today’s exercises are all about getting back in touch with each other, both in and out of bed.
During the day think of ways to touch your partner in loving ways. Continue the touching at nght too!
Here are some examples to get you started:
- Hugging (try a few 30-second hugs from Day Two of the program!)
- Holding hands
- Snuggling or cuddling while watching TV or a movie
- Kissing (not just “hello” and “goodbye” but “just because”)
- Playing footsie under the table at dinner
- Lightly touching him or her on the arm or leg while talking
- Offering a quick foot or neck massage at the end of the day