This past week has been pretty rough at our Junior High School, one of my daughter’s friend was kicked and punched and the video of it happening went viral pretty fast. It broke my heart watching this sweet girl getting hurt by another class mate. Many, many other students you can see are yelling for the girls to fight, not a single student is trying to break it up not anyone yelling for an adult to help. When I asked my teenager about it she told me she was across the playground and was trying to get over to help break it up.
Last school year it was my teen who was punched in the face because she WAS the one breaking up a fight between two girls she knows.
This incident is a HUGE reminder to us parents the importance of teaching our children respect, encouraging our teens to stand up against bullies, and to remind them that they are amazing people who can be the good when there is so much negativity.
My almost fourteen year old has the heart of gold, sometimes I forget how wise she is for her young age, and all of us parents need to remember that these teen years are some of the hardest years you go through! So much from your body changing, your emotions, preparing for your future, it is crucial for us parents/adults to help shape them into adults who can be self sufficient in life. Who will be the one to stand up against the bad.
I wrote this letter to Sam because she needs to know how amazing she is!
Sometimes I forget to tell you these things with the craziness of our days. But I see you. I see you every day working hard. You work harder than any teenager I know. You are amazing. You stay up late after I have asked you to help me to work on your homework. I can not believe how hard you work in school keeping a 4.0 GPA is not easy and I commend you for that.
I see you and hear you working on your music, the violin, piano and signing. Sure sometimes we need the quiet but I love it when you’re in the bathroom singing your heart out in the mirror. I never knew that singing in the bathroom actually helped you hear yourself better.
I see you in dance, and wow you are such an awesome dancer! I love watching you dance. You have a passion for it. Never give that up!
I see how dedicated you are in sports. Snowboarding and Softball I know much you enjoy it. You never give up, even when you fall you get back up and try again.
I see how you love your friends deeply. You are there for them, all of them and you always have a shoulder to cry on when they need it, or a respectful ear to listen to. You don’t judge others and you see the good in everyone.
No one could ever measure up to you Sam! Keep up everything you are doing, you are going to be one amazing adult in this world and I am lucky I get to be apart of it. I love you and all your craziness that makes you truly amazing,
I also have a tween, she is about to turn eleven and looks up to her older sister. She cried when she saw the video of the other student being kicked in the face after she was on the ground. She has a gentle soul, she cares deeply for every living being.
I wanted to write Sarah a letter too.
I know the last week has been pretty hard for you. That report that was due today was weighing heavy on your mind, I know it can be overwhelming with school, music and dance and I think you are doing a really good job at trying to juggle everything. These are just learning lessons that will continue for the rest of your life. I know you had a hard time understanding why other kids can be so mean to each other. Hearing of what happened at Sam’s school to how your friend made you feel bad yesterday is not easy. Sometimes our friends say mean things because they are hurting, or upset for a different reason and they lash out and hurt us. But remember that I know how amazing you are and I know how much you try to show kindness to everyone.
I want you to know that I see how much you look up to Sam and how you just want to be her friend not just her sister and she will see that soon. She will want to be close to you but for now you continue to be you, and keep showing her kindness and love.
I absolutely love watching you in your activities! Watching you play the violin and dance brings me so much joy! I could never do what you do. I am shocked and amazed when I watch you dance. You are so dedicated in dance and you work incredibly hard. All that hard work will pay off!
Continue to reach for your dreams because with how hard you work you will be able to achieve them.
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